Watching gangster movies or series can make you green and yellow with envy. Because the nasty crooks are not only rolling in money, but they also always get the hottest ladies, while you get nothing.
That is why many “good” men at some point ask themselves desperately:
“Do girls really only like assholes like that? Or their money? And do I, as a man, have to become like that too, or what do women really want?”
The short answer: No, the ladies are looking for nice guys.
Nevertheless, the main villains have a few characteristics that exert an irresistible attraction on the female sex…
…and no, it is NOT their money or the Ferrari in front of their door!
But what is the secret of these tough guys when it comes to love?
In other blog articles I have already explained a few things about what women are into and what they like about men .
This is especially important if you are wondering why you are still single .
To shed more light on the matter, let’s take a look at a concrete example:
What do women want? The 8 characteristics of “boss” men
Let’s imagine a typical, clichéd gangster boss like in a movie and call him Don Masculino (stupid name, I know…).
Although he’s a pretty nasty asshole and feared by friend and foe alike, he has a magical attraction for the ladies. He awakens heavenly feelings in them.
Not only in his bed, but also by the pool in the garden of his large villa, there is always at least one beautiful woman sunbathing on a lounger…
The girls like to come to him, both for sex and for a longer relationship.
The reason for his attractiveness as a man: Despite his questionable lifestyle bordering on insanity, he has exactly what women want.
But what exactly are the male characteristics that make our mean Don so irresistible?
What “boss rules” can you learn from him (but please WITHOUT adopting the negative aspects of his personality and behavior!)?
I want to solve the big mystery now – read at your own risk!
Boss Rule 1: A strong protective instinct
As the “weaker sex,” women are physically inferior to men.
That’s why they instinctively desire a partner who can protect them from the dangers out there. A strong shoulder to lean on.
At our Don Masculino’s side, the ladies feel 100 percent safe – even though his life as a gangster is a constant risk.
How on earth can this contradiction be explained? What do women really want, including in a relationship?
I want to tell you:
The ladies’ sense of security does NOT come from the meter-high fence surrounding his property, nor from his armored limousine…
The women feel so safe around the malicious arch-villain because he has a strong protective instinct. That’s why they love him.
He is an extremely self-confident and courageous man who always protects his partner and would defend her with a few hard fists if necessary.
However, his “deadly” gaze alone keeps attackers away…
All the bad guys out there know: anyone who touches the Don’s girlfriend is making a big mistake. Because the Don spares no effort to protect his loved ones from harm.
And just like our Don, you too should exude a protective instinct.
You don’t have to throw yourself into the worst dangers like a superhero…small gestures are enough.
A few examples?
Pick up your girl at the bus stop on your date. If you encounter any crooked guys on the way to the bar, stand between them and these wannabes as you walk.
And after the date, you can drop the woman off at her front door or at least send her a WhatsApp message asking if she got home safely!
Boss Rule 2: Alpha Male Leadership
Saturday morning, briefing in the disused warehouse on the outskirts of town.
Six seasoned men stare expectantly at our Don Masculino with wide eyes.
The loyal “soldiers” are waiting for their boss to give an announcement about what to do today.
The Don doesn’t take long to ask and gives each man his order: collect protection money, supervise the delivery, sink the body in the lake.
And immediately the obedient “soldiers” swarm out like bees, because they know that the boss has a well-thought-out master plan that they better stick to.
Even in love, our supervillain demonstrates charming leadership as an alpha male – because that is exactly what women want.
What does this mean? Quite simply:
After his loyal lackeys have left, the Don makes another call to his latest flame because he wants to meet her tomorrow evening.
But if you think he would cautiously ask you out on a date like most men do, you’re wrong.
A Don never asks , but always makes a crystal-clear offer that a woman can (almost) not refuse:
“Hey honey, tomorrow evening at 7 p.m. at the restaurant by the harbor? Put on something fancy, I’m looking forward to it!”
Polite but firm! No messing around!
Just like his “soldiers,” the lady voluntarily submits to the “charming command,” because she loves it when he sets the tone (including during sex in bed, by the way, but that’s not relevant here).
Because she trusts him, she can completely surrender to his guidance, let go, and simply enjoy the time she spends with this man.
This is extremely important, especially in a relationship!
Boss Rule 3: Never make women the center of attention
But suddenly everything changes: the date doesn’t happen.
What happened?
The enterprising Don Masculino has received valuable information from one of his spies that a large money transport is on its way tomorrow evening at 7 p.m.
The perfect opportunity for a robbery…A chance this good won’t come around again anytime soon!
The gangster boss can practically smell the money. And business comes first.
So he picks up his phone again and cancels the date.
When his deeply disappointed partner threatens to break up with him on the phone, he is not impressed at all (unlike many other men).
Instead, he just growls into the receiver:
“You know my rule: First family, then business, then love!”
…and hangs up.
Of course, she will NOT separate from him, because she loves him for his independence. It’s a wonderfully exciting feeling in a relationship to never be able to completely control your husband.
Because what women want is a man who has his own life, instead of constantly sitting on his partner’s back like a lapdog.
Just like our Don, you should never make women the number one topic in your life – whether flirting or in a relationship.
Because orienting all your actions solely towards the ladies seems pretty desperate and needy, like a clingy monkey.
Specifically, this means for you:
- Don’t constantly send WhatsApp messages to the girls and don’t spend the whole day online on Facebook or other platforms.
- Don’t constantly ask about dates or when you can see each other again. Women don’t like clingy men!
- Instead, do your own things like traveling, sports, concerts, and many other hobbies that make you happy.
Focus more on yourself, be your own center. Girls come second.
This makes you, as a man, appear independent to women – and attracts them even more. A bit contradictory, but true!
Boss Rule 4: Say what women want to hear
In the evening, take a break at a bar. Recharge your batteries before the big day of the robbery tomorrow.
While our Don Masculino absentmindedly sips his drink, an unknown dark-haired beauty suddenly sits down next to him at the bar.
The clever fox immediately gives her a nice compliment on her skin-tight dress, because he never leaves any doubt that he is interested in a pretty girl.
But he also knows: What women want to hear from a man when flirting are really original compliments about their personality.
That is why the Don does not limit his praise to external appearances.
No. After half an hour of small talk, he looks deep into his conversation partner’s eyes and says:
“You’ve been hurt many times in the past. But you’re also a woman who never gives up; I can see it in your eyes. I like ambitious ladies!”
Wow, that hit the spot!
The lady feels extremely flattered by this attempt at flirting, because hardly any man would give her such a profound compliment about her character.
Boss Rule 5: Honesty and setting boundaries
But our Don Masculino says other things that women want to hear from men!
We are still in the bar, and the lady signals with her open body language while flirting that she finds our macho man extremely attractive.
Want to know what he says to her? Let’s listen to what the two of them say!
She asks in a sweet voice if he will buy her a drink.
He says (politely): “No!” (simply because he NEVER buys women a drink when they first meet)
She raves about the last opera performance.
The Don sips his glass and simply replies (kindly): “I hate classical operas!”
She curiously asks if he is in a relationship.
He replies (laughing): “My lifestyle isn’t good for women. A committed relationship with me? Don’t even think about it, my dear!”
And despite his slightly harsh, dismissive answers, the black-haired beauty somehow has to smile. She moves closer and closer to him, secretly wishing to have sex with this bastard tonight…
You see: The charming villain never tells women what they want to hear, but simply says what he thinks when flirting.
He is honest and tells the truth on dates.
Equally important if you want to learn how to flirt : A guy like him doesn’t blindly fulfill every request just to ingratiate himself (keyword: buying a drink). He’s a challenge as a man. And girls like that.
He does all this with complete confidence, even at the risk of making himself extremely unpopular.
Because at the same time he knows: In a world full of submissive yes-men and men who slip on their trail of slime, “NO” is a very seductive word.
It is a strong expression of self-confidence towards a woman.
Because this behavior shows that he has clear principles as a person and that no lady, no matter how beautiful, can deter him from his path.
Boss Rule 6: Spontaneity and Adventure
Damn!
The armored car robbery (I mentioned it above) went wrong. But what’s even worse: the police are on our Don Masculino’s heels.
Oh wow!
Therefore, the wanted criminal has to spontaneously leave the city for a few days until the dust he has stirred up has settled.
So now he’s sitting in his car, driving through mountains and valleys, always towards the sunrise.
But what is happening here is not an “escape” for a brave guy like him, at least not only that.
It is also an exciting adventure for the Don to leave the big city behind and speed through the countryside at 200 km/h.
The busty lady with the two “full airbags” sitting in the passenger seat next to him thinks so too.
She was desperate to come along. She even left the comfortable lounger by the pool at his villa.
Because what women want from men is thrills and adventures – and our busy crook really offers plenty of that.
Everyone who knows him knows that!
You too should take your partner out of the gray everyday life and surprise her with exciting activities.
You should do this during your dating phase, but also in a relationship, to break out of the boring everyday routines and rekindle love.
It doesn’t have to be anything dangerous like with Don…just take her out to dinner spontaneously or spend a romantic weekend with her in the countryside.
She will surely remember such a thrilling date with you for a long time to come!
By the way, in another article of mine you will find even more really good tips on what women find sexually attractive in men – both visually and in terms of character.
Boss Rule 7: Fight for a mission in life
Now that our top gangster has time to think in his hiding place from the cops, he’s asking himself WHY he’s doing all this. Why all this risk?
Of course, Don Masculino does not conduct all his dirty dealings out of greed or other selfish motives.
Man, what do you think of him? 🙂
Money, cars and women are of secondary interest to him.
He does all this to “protect” his city (whatever that means in sick gangster logic…).
His entire life is focused on this great mission:
To make his vision come true, he gets up every morning at 6 a.m. and jumps into a cold shower – even if there’s a hot blonde lying in bed next to him with whom he could have another round of sex…
His girls love him for it, because the ambition of such men is extremely attractive to women.
Because women don’t want a partner who quickly doubts and gives up. They want a strong man who knows what he’s living for. Someone who persistently pursues his goals, no matter how many obstacles are thrown in his way.
You should do that too. Find a mission to fight for!
Of course, your life’s work should always serve a good cause…
Then, unlike Don, you can even sleep in on Sunday morning – perhaps with a great partner in your arms.
Boss Rule 8: Humor and Generosity
One more note: So far, you’ve gotten to know Don Masculino from his nasty, slightly arrogant side.
And sure, this crook’s soul is black, as black as his morning coffee. But he’s not always serious and uptight.
When he sits with his friends in the evening after a good deal and drinks red wine or throws an expensive party, the soft side of him also comes out.
Then he begins to show some sort of emotion and humor.
His grim expression brightens, a smile crosses his lips and sometimes he even makes a dry joke.
This way, not only his friends can feel comfortable with him, but also the women.
They then think what they often think about fearsome villains when they get to know them better:
“Actually, I always thought he was evil, but behind the facade he’s actually a nice guy!”
It’s really exciting to get to know a new side of your (future) partner every now and then…
But what do women want in a relationship?
Yes, our Don Masculino is a real devil, because as a man he seems to have everything women want.
Are you thinking you’ll never be like him? Be glad!
Because after all these tips, I want to tell you one more secret about the Don, the unvarnished truth:
This macho guy has an exciting personality and certainly gets many hot girls into bed for sex…
But no partner really stays by his side for long, which makes him unhappy deep down (although he would never admit it).
His companions know that much of his gangster life is totally messed up:
- Because he lives a very dangerous life, the ladies are constantly afraid for him. While his trigger-happy husband once again sneaks through the alleys of the big city, his sweetheart sits at home, almost sick with worry. After all, it could be that he’s being riddled with bullets at this very moment, or that a bomb is exploding in his car…
- Starting a family with this arch-villain is also rather difficult. If he ever ends up behind bars, his children would have to grow up without a father.
- Furthermore, the woman knows full well that she can never have a womanizer like our Don all to herself in a relationship, but must always share him with competitors.
In summary: It’s complicated.
All of this is so frustrating that the feeling of love quickly breaks down and sooner or later she leaves him.
Why am I telling you this?
Quite simply: So that you can see what women want in a relationship.
Things like reliability, stability, and genuine security are what we men should also bring with us. Exactly what the asshole type lacks.
Therefore, you should really only observe the positive aspects of our shady gangster boss and avoid his negative traits as much as possible! Please do NOT live a life like him!
If you do this, you will be a man who not only enjoys short-term affairs like a macho, but can be happy in a relationship for the long term.
