When you’re working out, you can really work up a sweat – and not just from lifting weights: there are gorgeous women in skin-tight leggings stretching and bending before our very eyes, as far as the eye can see!
You really can’t blame us guys if the focus isn’t always on the weight bench.
But how can you approach and get to know women at the gym and ultimately get their cell phone number?
I will tell you this in this article with 10 tips:
The fear of approaching people at the gym
Every day, millions of men and women across Germany head to the gym. They work hard there to shape their bodies, improve their fitness, or leave the stress of everyday life behind and simply work out.
So why not take the opportunity to have a flirt or two at the gym or get to know a great woman better?
But approaching women at the gym?
This isn’t the ideal place , you might think as a man. You’ll realize after reading this article that we guys are completely wrong.
Because sports actually offer a lot of opportunities for a hot flirt.
Maybe you’ve already set your sights on a woman you see regularly while working out and who you like? But you just don’t know how to approach your crush at the gym ? After all, you don’t want to embarrass yourself, right?
Why men don’t dare…
I hear the same problems from my students over and over again when it comes to flirting and dating in the gym:
- “The women certainly don’t want to be disturbed during training. Is there even a suitable moment for contact?”
- “If I get rejected at the gym, half the studio will notice!”
- “I just don’t know when there’s a good opportunity to approach someone.”
- “What if the muscleman next to her happens to be her boyfriend?”
But today I want to dispel all these misconceptions and fears and give you a surefire step-by-step roadmap.
This makes meeting women at the gym easier than mixing a protein shake afterwards 😉
That’s why the gym is the perfect place for flirting
Generally speaking, many single women want to be approached at the gym , or are at least open to meeting new people. But that only applies if you don’t interrupt them mid-workout while they’re completely out of breath and sweating on the machines.
This means that the right timing when making contact is crucial (see below!).
And if you look at it purely rationally, there could hardly be a better place for us men to meet women than the gym!
Think about it:
Where else can you meet so many different ladies in one place that you can approach? At the training center, you’ll find both slim and muscular women, as well as curvy women , ambitiously working toward their goals.
But it’s not just the selection that’s important when looking for the right partner. There are several factors that make the gym a true flirting and dating paradise:
The sense of community
Approaching women at the gym is easier here than anywhere else.
Why are you all in the gym?
Right, to exercise and do something for your body. Even if everyone doesn’t know each other, they still share a sense of community.
This creates an ideal basis for flirting, because somehow you are already “on the same team”.
There isn’t the same anonymity as when you meet on the street among crowds of people running from point A to point B.
You and the woman of your desire are already part of a group. And that makes getting closer much easier, as you’ll soon see.
Bonding through a shared hobby
If you, as a man, want to approach a woman on the street or in a club, or meet her while looking for a partner online, you first need to find out whether you have common interests that you can talk about.
You can skip this step if you approach women at the gym.
Because you already know that you have one thing in common: a passion for sports and fitness (or at least the need to lose the winter fat you’ve carefully gained).
You already know one important character trait of hers: that she is a person who is motivated to work towards her goals.
And you probably wouldn’t be there either if you had no motivation whatsoever and were a total sports hater.
So you already have one important thing that connects you and paves the way for getting to know each other.
Good mood thanks to happiness hormones
Sport releases endorphins in women, just like in men.
If you do fitness yourself, then you know that great feeling afterwards – you have achieved something, you are happy and balanced.
That’s the ideal prerequisite for approaching someone!
When your chosen one has finished her workout, she’ll be exhausted, but she’ll almost certainly also be calm, relaxed (at least more relaxed than before), and in a good mood. If you don’t approach her in this state of mind, when will you?
Practical tips: 10-step “training plan” for flirting in the gym
Now let’s get down to business. The fitness temple is supposed to be the perfect place to meet women.
” So far so good, but how exactly do I go about it? ” you might be asking yourself. ” How should I approach women at the gym to get their number? “
No problem, I’ll help you! Here’s your step-by-step guide with 10 rules:
1. Check the situation, keep your eyes open!
First, take your time to look around. You don’t necessarily have to immediately approach the first woman you see at the gym; instead, observe what’s going on.
Before you rush into the world of women, get an overview:
Who trains in which area of the studio? And generally, at what times are the most attractive women in your age group here?
If you have already spotted a specific lady who has piqued your interest, then see what you are dealing with.
Is she there alone or with a friend or even a man? First, take your time to assess the situation.
2. Don’t be a show-off (or a personal trainer)
You don’t have to risk getting lumbago by lifting 150 kilos as she walks past you just to impress the woman with your biceps.
Even the “battle cry” when lifting barbells is not necessarily what attracts all women.
What also doesn’t go over so well is if you act like a show-off and try to lecture her. After all, you want to get to know her on a personal level and not just be her smart-aleck training partner.
3. At the right time in the right place
If the woman you want to approach at the gym is jogging on the treadmill, completely out of breath, and listening to music, then it’s the worst possible time to make contact!
Please don’t act like the proverbial bull in a china shop in the gym.
Of course, you should show a bit of tact and wait for the right moment to approach a woman at the gym. And that moment isn’t in the middle of a leg, butt, and abs class! Not even if she’s just mastering the last leg on the stepper.
But when she comes out of the classroom, takes a break from her workout, refills her bottle, or even finishes her workout – then it’s time for you to attack.
4. Approaching: Make the first move!
Now you have to throw doubts, fear of approaching and negative beliefs (which could ruin your trip before you even approach the woman!) overboard and approach her.
A great psychology tip that always works well with the men in my coaching is the three-second rule:
When you realize that the time is right to hit on her, walk over to her IMMEDIATELY.
Without thinking any further or imagining in advance what she might say to you in the worst case scenario.
As a man, overcome your fear of approaching women at the gym by acting quickly, before doubts and the like get in the way.
As a little help, you can think of a sentence in advance that you could use to chat her up.
Wouldn’t that embarrass you in front of other people? No!
Most people won’t even notice your approach because they’ll be too busy with their own training. At most, they’ll think you’re good friends—so they won’t assume it’s an intrusive flirtation, but rather the most normal thing in the world.
And what if that tattooed, bull-necked guy with the 200-kilo barbell over there is her boyfriend?
Then you’ll notice it in time due to his evil looks and can quickly get out of the situation thanks to the non-binding conversation starter (see next point!)…
5. Tips – ideal conversation starters for flirting
What is the best thing to say when you want to approach women at the gym?
Here you actually have a lot of options for a discreet first contact, so that you don’t have to come right out and say it.
Here are a few practical example sentences for various scenarios:
- You’re taking the same class and you’re standing next to her: “Hey, have you taken this class before? I’m a complete beginner and I have no idea what to expect!”
- After completing the course together: “Wow, I’m totally exhausted, but that was really fun, wasn’t it?”
- You meet her on the training floor: “Sorry, can you tell me where I can find…[machine XY]…? I’m new to the studio.”
- You’re both standing at the water cooler: “So, are you as exhausted as I am? Which of these drinks would you recommend for refreshment?”
- You’re currently using a piece of training equipment: “Hey, can you briefly explain to me how this thing works?”
These were just a few examples to show you how easy it actually is for us men to approach women at the gym.
Since you’re both doing sports and there are countless topics to talk about, starting a conversation here is really relatively easy!
6. Find out their training times
Now that you’ve exchanged the first words, you can discreetly find out when the woman is usually available at the studio so you can see her again as soon as possible.
A very simple method is to talk about the number of visitors in the studio.
When it’s super crowded, you as a man say:
“My goodness, it’s really crowded here today! It must be rush hour. Do you always train at this time, or do you have a tip for me as to when it’s quieter?”
If it is not so crowded, you can say:
“Hey, it’s really relaxed here today. Not so many people. Is that why you always train at this time?”
If you have been going to the gym for a while, just ask:
“Strange, I’ve never seen you here before. Do you usually come here at different times?”
7. Don’t stop them from training
It is very important that you end your short chat after a few minutes.
You don’t want the woman to get the impression that you’re only at the gym to flirt and approach women. And she certainly doesn’t want to be kept from training forever.
You now have the most important information: You know roughly when you can usually find her in the studio.
But what if you notice through obvious flirting signals (see below!) that she wants to continue talking to you? Then go for it – blocking her and sending the wrong signals, of course, is not what you want to do.
8. See her again “by chance” and continue flirting
Do you now know at what times you can find the woman of your desire exercising?
Then it shouldn’t be a problem running into her again. Just show up at the gym at the same time as her!
Before she thinks you’re stalking her, use reverse psychology by greeting her with a teasing (!) reproach like:
“Say, are you following me?”
This way you can lighten the situation in a charming way.
Once you get back into conversation, it’s time to slowly steer your conversation towards topics other than sports in order to build a more personal foundation and thus become closer.
To flirt, you can combine a slightly cheeky saying with an interested question:
“What else do you do when you’re not flirting with men at the gym?”
Or you can move from the topic of fitness to the obvious topic of nutrition and ask her about her favorite food and whether she likes to cook.
9. Pay attention to her flirting signals
During your conversation, you should pay attention to the woman’s verbal and nonverbal signals to find out as quickly as possible whether she is interested in you at all or whether you are just wasting your time.
In these articles, I’ve already explained the hidden signs that indicate whether a woman is attracted to you or likes you . Also, learn the secret and subtle flirting signals that show her interest!
10. Arrange the date with her
Of course, you don’t just want to approach the woman at the gym, but also get her number and later win her over on a date.
If she sends you positive flirting signals during the conversation and you continue to find her attractive, then take the plunge and invite her to meet up!
Basically, you have two options:
- You can grab a shake or coffee right after your workout, for example, in the studio’s “café corner.” Or you can grab a drink, eat a salad, etc., right next to the gym.
- If the woman doesn’t have time to talk right now, grab her number and arrange a date at a later time!
However, you should always provide a reason for exchanging numbers at the gym.
For example, you might tell her about a great restaurant that serves delicious, yet healthy food that you’d like to show her. Or you might even arrange to go outdoor exercise together on a summer date .
When it comes to baskets: Don’t throw in the towel!
But what if she’s not interested, blocks you, doesn’t want to give you her number, or something similar? Don’t despair!
As mentioned at the beginning: There is hardly any other place where there is as much choice for us men as in the gym.
So if things didn’t work out with that one woman you like, just press the “reset” button and go back to point 1 – checking the situation 😉
I guarantee you that she is not the only attractive girl there and you can approach and meet many other great women at the gym.
