As a “hungry” single, you’re eager to start looking for a partner again. So, you’re wondering where the best place to meet women is. That is, where you, as a man, have the best chance of success these days.
Finding a partner doesn’t seem particularly easy these days, as there are many pitfalls and obstacles waiting for us men. The problem:
- On online dating apps like Tinder, you hardly get any matches or the women don’t respond to you.
- There are almost no attractive single women at work or among your friends (especially if your job and hobbies are “typically male,” meaning you’re only around guys most of the time).
- On the street or in other places in the city, girls are often stressed, which is why they (supposedly) don’t want to be approached. Or they don’t fit your type.
- Sometimes, like in a club, certain party animals are simply not your level when it comes to a committed relationship.
At some point, the situation seems almost hopeless. Especially if you ‘ve been single for years , barely go on dates, or have never had a girlfriend .
It’s really hard to be let down by love like that, I know.
But the situation isn’t as dire for singles as you might think! There are many easy ways to meet attractive women. You just have to know where and how it works:
Where is the best place to meet women?
Your previous partner-search strategies obviously haven’t yielded the desired results. And simply waiting until you meet the right woman by chance isn’t an option either.
But where do you get to know a woman without literally having to break a leg?
It works best in places where these 5 criteria are met:
- People aren’t in a hurry or stressed, but rather have plenty of time to talk. And they might even be up for a spontaneous date.
- You are in a particularly good mood and therefore open to new contacts and flirts.
- There are an above-average number of singles hanging around there.
- In this special environment, you will meet the right type of woman who matches your hobbies, interests, values and life goals (i.e. has a lot in common with you).
- The ladies there correspond to the age you are looking for, depending on whether you would like to meet younger or older women .
Sounds like paradise? No, there really is such a thing here on earth!
For example, I’m thinking of possibilities like:
Parties, holidays, sunbathing lawns in parks and swimming pools, long train journeys, museums, libraries and anywhere where people are waiting for something (see below!)…
But before we get to that, let’s first discuss the two “classic” tips where men usually meet women. Or at least they try these places because it seems like the easiest solution:
Problem area 1: Clubs, pubs and bars
Okay, maybe not what you want to hear if you don’t like the loud music, dancing, drunk people and inflated prices.
But it is and remains the truth:
When partying in discos , pubs and bars you get to know women who are particularly open to one-night stands or sex on the first date .
The female singles at this place are usually in a great flirting mood and are literally waiting to be approached by friendly (and sober!) men.
To get to know a woman individually or in a group, it is best to start the conversation with a funny saying, such as:
“Hey, I have a question for you! My friend and I were just discussing: Who’s cooler, Spongebob or Bob the Builder? We need your expert opinion!”
If the ladies have a sense of humor and respond to the topic in a funny way, the conversation flows naturally!
The problem: Parties usually only take place on weekends. Friends often don’t have the time or inclination, and going out alone can be a challenge.
In addition, you’ll face stiff competition in a club, as many guys are on the dance floor, eager to get some “prey” for themselves. Furthermore, most nightlife encounters are superficial. Finding an intelligent woman for a long-term relationship will be rather difficult.
Problem area 2: Dating sites and apps
Maybe you are a shy man who generally has difficulty approaching women in “real life” and flirting with them in a charming way?
The Internet makes it possible:
Nowadays, you can meet women through online dating, day and night. Quickly and conveniently from your own couch.
Classic dating sites and dating agencies are available, such as Parship, Elitepartner, the completely free Finya or LoveScout24.
Another option for online dating is modern flirting apps like Tinder , Lovoo, Bumble , or OkCupid . These are mostly free to use to find women in your area.
Based on profile information, you can quickly determine whether a user has enough in common with you. This saves you a lot of time on pointless conversations.
However, to be even remotely successful at online dating, you should follow my tips on how to get more matches instead of constantly coming up empty-handed when swiping.
Not sure which platform to choose? Find out which dating app or dating site is best for you in my other guide article !
The problem: Meeting people online is anonymous and rather superficial. Often, it’s all about looks. And without a highly attractive profile that ranks among the top 20%, it becomes quite difficult. This is also due to the intense competition: Most platforms have a significant male surplus, allowing women to pick the “cream of the crop.”
Where do you meet women in everyday life? 18 places
If neither flirt apps nor the boozy nightlife are an option for you, then you can of course meet normal women in everyday life and find a partner offline, without dating sites or the Tinder app.
At least that’s my favorite way to find a partner…
…because chance encounters like those on train journeys or while shopping at the deli counter have huge advantages:
- Unlike on the anonymous internet, you get to know your counterpart “in real life” straight away and can immediately tell whether the chemistry is right.
- Almost no competition: You immediately appear attractive to the woman because hardly any man dares to approach pretty girls in everyday life.
- Most women are fed up with Tinder and don’t want to be hit on by drunk guys in clubs. Therefore, they long for nothing more than to “just by chance” meet their dream prince for a relationship in everyday life, like in a cheesy Hollywood movie.
- You can get in touch with your dream woman anytime, anywhere – not just on the weekend (like at parties) or after a match (like on Tinder).
- You will also meet intelligent and sophisticated women who cannot be found in discos or on online dating platforms.
But where can you approach them and flirt with them in real life during the day?
Here, I’ll share my 18 tips for meeting women without Tinder. It’s best to choose places that match your personal hobbies and interests. This way, you’re more likely to meet a female target audience that’s a good fit for you.
1. At platforms and stops
Train stations are great. And no, you should NOT approach the beautiful traveler when she’s rushing through the lobby, laden with suitcases, to catch her train…
It’s better to meet women where they have a lot of time, such as in waiting areas and on the platform.
Tram and bus stops are logically just as suitable.
You can start a small talk very easily:
“Excuse me, was line 73 here yet?”
Or:
“Which train do I have to take to get to [place XY]?”
2. On vacation, while traveling and on day trips
In a paradisiacal place far away from home, many single women are in a cheerful flirting mood – because they have left the worries of everyday life at home.
And when the holidaymakers really relax under palm trees with a cocktail, they often wish for nothing more than to meet a man who will make their happiness complete (even if it is not true love).
Making contacts here is easy, even for shy men. Opportunities arise from numerous activities:
- at breakfast in the hotel at the buffet
- during the day at the beach or pool
- in the city in the souvenir shop
- on excursions (ideal excuse to ask them for directions!)
- in the evening in cafes and bars
- partying at night in a club
Since people have endless time on vacation, it’s often possible to arrange a date at short notice. You can also easily meet wealthy women near expensive luxury hotels .
If a long-distance trip is too big and expensive for you, then at least take a day trip to an interesting city near you, where you can meet new women while sightseeing!
3. About new hobbies and interests
Look for suitable clubs and groups for specific leisure activities where you can also meet attractive girls.
It doesn’t have to be a knitting class or Pilates training…
…nor would I recommend amateur radio operators or model building friends to meet women (because there are hardly any female singles your age there).
But how about dog training if you have a dog? Or a theater group? Or something with music? Dancing? The local running group? Bouldering at the climbing gym? A cooking class?
Whether it’s sports, art, or other things, choose exciting activities that match your interests and inspire you!
By the way, Facebook groups or Bumble For Friends (BFF) are a wonderful way to start your search and make initial contacts.
4. At concerts and festivals
Many women want a man who has the same taste in music as them.
Somehow understandable… Because if one person happily sings Helene Fischer while the other headbangs to dark heavy metal, a relationship crisis is inevitable.
Therefore, you can easily meet suitable women at concerts and festivals .
Aside from that, the atmosphere at these places is great for flirting. The women at the festival are very sociable, and some are even open to a one-night stand in the tent. Sometimes, you can even find a friendship with benefits if you keep in touch after the event.
The easiest way to flirt: toast each other casually with a mug of beer, compliment each other on their band shirt and then philosophize about their shared favorite music.
Alternatively, you can ask the woman a question about music, such as:
“Hey, when and where is the band XY playing?”
Or:
“I don’t even know that song. Do you know which one it is?”
5. At home in your neighborhood
Why travel far away when the good things are so close? Perhaps there’s an interesting neighbor in your building or a few doors down that you can get to know.
Simple sentences are often enough to start a conversation.
If you both live in the same building, you could, for example, ring her doorbell and politely ask if she’d lend you a drill. Or offer to carry her heavy shopping bags up the stairs when you get home.
In my other article, I’ll give you more creative ideas on how to approach and seduce your pretty neighbor .
6. Swimming lake, beach and swimming pool
This is a relatively relaxed place to meet women. The bathing beauties in skimpy bikinis lounge lazily on their blankets, while Bob Marley or Taylor Swift blares from a boombox…
In summer, people are really relaxed at the lake, on the beach or in the local swimming pool .
And: The potential singles have plenty of time for flirting or even dating.
Maybe one day, you guys will “just by chance” drop your badminton or soccer ball onto the ceiling of the beautiful girls, so that you can start a conversation when you get it back.
If you are a little braver, you go to the women with the sunscreen and say:
“Hey, could you put some cream on my back? Then I’ll put some cream on yours too, it’s already looking a little red…”
7. On longer train journeys
People also have plenty of time on public transport—especially when traveling to more distant destinations. Chatting up people during the daily commute to work also works just as well.
Maybe she’s reading a book? And she looks awfully like your dream woman?
Then you can easily get to know the woman by asking about her reading.
Or, if you’re traveling long distances, you can ask her what her destination is and talk to her about her upcoming vacation.
If necessary, the sentence still works:
“Hey, which stop do I have to get off at if I want to go to [location XY]?”
Here in this blog article you will find my detailed instructions on how to approach your beloved on the train, bus or subway .
8. While waiting at the traffic light
Most people hate having to wait for something in the city…did I mention that?
If you have to wait at a red light while crossing the street, this is the ideal opportunity to meet the cute woman next to you.
Just say something casual, like:
“I think the traffic light is broken!”
Or:
“If we have to wait any longer, we can set up a tent here with a camping table and chairs!”
9. At the university (lecture hall or campus)
Back to the topic of “educated women”: Yes, university is also a “hot spot” for finding a partner if you want to meet young female students who not only look attractive but also have a brain.
For us men, there’s nothing easier than sitting next to a woman in a lecture hall and asking about the material from the last session just before the lecture begins. The same applies to seminars, of course.
Or you visit the overcrowded cafeteria and ask a student if she can sit at her table for dinner because there’s nowhere else available. During this spontaneous “date,” you playfully try to guess what subject she’s studying.
Maybe you aren’t even a student yourself, but you can at least pretend to be…
Just walk across campus and ask the woman where the library is. Then engage her in small talk, which can easily get “BIG” 🙂
10. At work or in the office
According to statistics and a survey, 18% of all couples in Germany meet at work. This isn’t surprising:
When you spend eight hours a day together in the office or meet in the hallway several times a week, you’re bound to get closer at some point. In many companies these days, the atmosphere is relatively relaxed anyway.
However, you must be extremely discreet in your approaches if you want to meet new women through your job.
Never brazenly hit on your female colleagues to avoid sexual harassment!
How does this work?
In another blog article, I explain how you can flirt at work – even if you are already in love with your colleague !
11. In the park and recreation area
Another option is to approach women in the park . People also have plenty of time on their hands when out in the countryside and appreciate a bit of entertainment. So get to work and get to know them in this place!
A great woman sitting on a blanket or park bench?
Then you can ask her for directions while you’re walking or ask her what book she’s reading.
If she invites you to sit down with her after a few minutes, that’s the start of your first date…
You can also easily establish a connection with dog owners during your walk by paying their dog a nice compliment:
“Oh, that dog is so cute! Can I pet it, or does it bite strange men? What breed is it?”
12. In the gym and sports club
If you want to keep fit and are looking for a similarly athletic girlfriend, a great place to meet new women is the gym. And what man would say no to such a selection of athletic women with toned legs?
In addition, during sporting activities you meet particularly motivated people who want to achieve goals in life – which I personally find an important quality when looking for a partner.
This also includes chubby ladies (if you’re into that) who want to reduce their weight.
The most elegant saying for women:
“Hey, can you show me how to set up the elliptical trainer properly? This is only my second time here today…”
In the linked advice articles you will receive detailed instructions from me on how best to approach a power lady in the gym or how to get closer to your gym crush .
13. At markets and city festivals
No, by “markets” I don’t necessarily mean the weekly market where grandmas buy their cauliflower and rhubarb on Saturday mornings…
I’m more thinking of events like fairs, Christmas markets, flea markets, arts and crafts markets, medieval markets and other festivals that take place in the city center throughout the year.
Flirting in this place is actually like approaching people on the street , except that the women are in a slightly better mood when you’re getting to know them.
To start the conversation, you can ask her a question about food or drink:
“That looks delicious. What is it / Where can I get it?”
Or you can leave a comment when you are standing together at a stand where there are interesting goods to admire:
“This ceramic monkey figurine looks really funny, but would you want to put something like that in your apartment and look at it every day?”
14. Course in a dance school
Need I say much more? When you’re dancing, there’s a real sense of love in the air.
And we men also benefit from shaking a leg sometimes!
Not only will you easily meet a great woman when you’re assigned a dance partner, but you’ll also immediately establish physical contact while dancing.
So sign up for a dance class and use this opportunity to flirt with hot single women!
15. While shopping at the mall or IKEA
The weather is miserable – nasty autumn rain or bitterly cold winter?
Then a (larger) shopping mall is the ideal place to meet new women these days.
Outside of the shops, you can ask a woman for directions anywhere. For example, where to find H&M or a shop to buy good pants.
In the shops themselves, you grab two shirts and ask for their female opinion:
“Hey, what do you think: the blue or the black shirt, which suits me better?”
Another option is the IKEA furniture store. Here, you can also ask attractive customers for their opinions on certain pieces of furniture or decorative items.
16. In exhibitions, museums and trade fairs
If you’re interested in art and culture, exhibitions and museums are perfect places to meet women. Just like at university, you’ll naturally meet a very intelligent and educated crowd here. Open-air museums are also a great option in the summer.
You can easily start a conversation by making a comment to the woman about the exhibits, such as:
“What is the artist trying to tell us?” (The scribbled picture or the crazy sculpture that is considered “art”)
Or:
“This antique vase is truly remarkable… I wonder how long it took to make?”
Another idea for making new contacts is attending trade fairs on specific (specialized) topics. Here, you have the chance to meet women who share your specific interests.
17. In supermarkets and drugstores
Regardless of age, every woman has to go shopping regularly, unless she orders from online delivery services like Picnic. Between the shelves of yogurt cups, instant soups, and toilet paper, the supermarket or drugstore is the perfect opportunity for flirting.
In theory, this works not only with customers, but also with the salespeople.
Food, care products, etc. offer you as a man numerous hooks to start a conversation if you want to spontaneously meet a woman there.
Which saying works? Simply say to the strange beauty:
“Excuse me, where can I find the mortadella / toothpaste etc.?”
Or:
“Can you recommend one of these wines as a gift for a friend?”
18. In bookstores and libraries
If you want to meet intelligent and educated single women (keyword sapiosexuality ), places with books are always a good option for finding a partner.
Despite the flirtatious mood, you have to remain relatively calm here so that you don’t get thrown out…
Ask the woman in a whisper where you can find books on a particular topic.
Or use the book she is currently browsing as a starting point for a profound conversation:
“Cool, you also like reading Stephen King? I have to say, IT and Pet Sematary are his most brilliant works, what do you think?”
And if you really don’t want to make a sound in the reverent silence of the library, then simply slip her a note with your phone number on it to get to know her discreetly…
Next step: How to approach women?
Okay, now you know the best places to meet women.
The next step for us men, of course, is to give our shyness a motivating, friendly kick in the ass. This means you have to overcome your fear of approaching and approach the (still) unknown girl.
Please note the following 7 tips and rules:
- Before you go, you, as a man, should get a top-notch look and outfit. Appearance matters at the beginning, since the woman doesn’t yet know anything about your character.
- Don’t wait until your female counterpart smiles at you; approach her immediately, even without eye contact. In everyday life, most people are so busy with their own business that they don’t even notice you.
- Approach the woman without hesitation as soon as you see her. Say hello within the first three seconds. Otherwise, you’ll start thinking too much, which will lead to a mental block.
- Maintain positive and confident body language. This includes walking upright, smiling charmingly, and a firm handshake (without breaking her hand).
- Try to quickly strike up some interesting small talk. Something that always works when flirting is slightly cheeky-sounding phrases like, “So what do you usually do when you’re not hanging around here?”
- Ask the woman meaningful questions to get to know her, listen attentively, and share things about yourself while answering. This will transform you from a stranger to a confidant.
- If the chemistry is right, don’t forget to exchange cell phone numbers with her and suggest a date soon (for which you have to stay in touch). Otherwise, the chances of ever seeing her again are very slim.
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