You’ve been single for a while and feel unsuccessful with women. So you’ve decided it’s time to learn how to flirt.
Great – with this wise insight, the first big step has been taken!
The decision wasn’t a coincidence, because somehow you have the feeling that you can’t land the attractive ladies, right?
Why flirting is so extremely difficult for you…
All the failures in love can be pretty frustrating, I know.
Let me guess:
Often, out of fear and shyness, you don’t even dare to approach a hot woman…
And when you do meet a girl (and maybe even go on a date with her), the conversations are pretty rocky – partly because of nervousness.
You somehow don’t know how to make her laugh and enthrall her. Intimate touches, kisses, and sex are as far away as the next moon landing anyway.
You’ll quickly get rejected or end up in the friend zone…
It seems hopeless for you as a single person.
So you’re wondering: Can you even learn to flirt ? And if so, what’s the quickest way to become an irresistible Casanova?
In this article, I’ll share with you the 8 most important tips on how to make flirting a success!
Question: Can you learn to flirt?
Many men go through life with a rather negative attitude toward their own ability to learn. They firmly believe things like:
- ” You can’t learn to flirt. It’s something you’re born with—as a natural talent! You either have it or you don’t! “
- “ I’m just a shy man and I can’t change that! ”
- “ There was this entertainer guy at the party the other day who made the women laugh and ended up going home with the hot lady… I will NEVER be that confident! ”
- ” I’m not good-looking, I don’t have any toned muscles, I don’t have a Porsche, and I barely have any money. The ladies just aren’t into me, no matter what I try! “
- “ I’m not a born speaker… I’m just speechless as soon as a cute girl stands in front of me! ”
Such beliefs are, among other things, the reason why many people are single for a long time or have never even had a girlfriend .
Do you recognize yourself a little bit in this?
All of these thoughts are (thankfully!) complete nonsense. Because EVERY man can learn to flirt—no matter what he looks like, how full his wallet is, or what skills he brings.
The only thing you need:
The right flirting methods and some practical practice to overcome your shyness and impress women in everyday life!
Learn to flirt with a book or YouTube?
In addition, many men believe that it is enough to sit in front of their smartphone or pick up a good book in order to learn how to flirt in the “quiet room”.
They then absorb masses of information about how to overcome social anxiety, approach women, start a flirty conversation, or use body language correctly.
Sure, all this flirting knowledge is good and important.
BUT: Only through practice do you learn flirting and dating!
After all, just watching YouTube videos about surfing isn’t enough to learn how to surf. Right?
So, you have to go out among people and make contact with the girls to gain experience.
You have to put your foot in it and get rejected (unfortunately, painful ones) because that’s the only way you’ll learn to correct your mistakes and flirt PROPERLY like a master.
The man needs regular exercise…
Even for beginners or advanced players, it is not enough to approach a party girl in a disco while half drunk three times a year.
How do you want to learn how to flirt and overcome your fear?
And how do you find true love or even just have hot sex?
The best thing to do is talk to women every damn day and at every opportunity, whether you’re waiting at the train station, at the supermarket checkout , or in town.
The whole thing is like learning to ride a bike as a child:
You’ll wobble, lurch, fall, and get a bloody knee during your first attempts…
But the more often you get on the saddle and ride, the more confident you will become in cycling (and eventually you won’t need training wheels anymore).
8 tips to learn how to flirt properly
How exactly can you, as a shy man, approach women and learn how to flirt, step by step?
As a flirting coach, I’ve trained hundreds of single men and can therefore show you the shortest path to your goal. Let’s fire up the turbo!
Here are 8 tips and steps you should follow in your everyday life:
1. Use every opportunity to practice
As the saying goes: Opportunity makes love!
But what do we guys do when we see an attractive woman? Whether in a club or on the street?
Exactly: We stand there, rooted to the spot, staring after her, desperately seeking eye contact, and in the end…do nothing! Missed opportunity!
I know you’re a bit shy as a beginner. No problem.
But how will you ever learn to flirt in this life if you miss every opportunity to “practice”?
Of course, you’ll get a lot of rejections as soon as you start approaching women .
But the more often you try it, the more confident you will become – and that will automatically increase your attractiveness to the opposite sex…promise!
What can shy men do to finally approach attractive girls?
In this article you will learn the best psychological tricks and methods to quickly overcome the fear of approaching people .
2. Recognize your flirting signals correctly
I have experienced the following situation several times in the past:
I was out partying at a bar with my best friend to learn how to flirt.
Because he was a bit braver than me, he “organized” a few girls to sit down at a table with us.
The conversation was rather mediocre, so the ladies left after 15 to 20 minutes.
My “wingman” then said to me (almost reproachfully):
” Oh, Andy! Didn’t you notice how that blonde kept smiling at you and touching your arm? She fancied you! Why didn’t you try MORE with her? “
Oh man, I idiot was actually a blind fish.
I hadn’t noticed that the lady in question had cast one of her pretty eyes on me.
And instead of launching a big flirting offensive and getting her number, I actually raved about “World of Warcraft,” technology, and current financial policy.
Not a good idea if you want sex and love!
Learning to flirt also means:
Observe the subtle (body language) signals of women and, as soon as you notice their interest, make an approach!
3. Don’t try too hard to impress
How can you appear attractive in conversation so that the lady’s mouth starts to water?
When you talk to a woman, you shouldn’t try desperately to impress her just so she’ll get into bed with you.
There is nothing more unpleasant when getting to know someone and dating than a show-off and imposter!
So DO NOT tell her that you go to the gym 3 times a week to “pump” if it is not true.
Also, DO NOT rub it in her face how much money you earn at your job or what expensive car you drive.
In the worst case, she will think:
“ Hmmm, does this guy need the big BMW to compensate for his small ego…? ”
Learning to flirt properly means breaking away from the kind of behavior and “techniques” that men use to involuntarily catapult themselves into the sidelines.
If you really are a sporty guy with a lot of money, let her feel that between the lines – but don’t give it to her with the (proverbial) sledgehammer.
4. Don’t (just) play the nice “gentleman”
Let’s get to the biggest flirting myth: wanting to please the woman and “sniveling”.
I see so many men who have absorbed their romantic ideas of love from Hollywood tearjerkers.
These are guys who seem pretty needy and…
- …buy liters of drinks to the ladies in the disco.
- …bring a rose on the first date.
- …renovate your apartment, assemble furniture or repair your computer.
- …are always available and constantly writing on WhatsApp.
- …saying “yes and amen” to everything on a date to please the potential partner (even though they secretly disagree).
- …just act like a friend to gain her trust – with a “ticket” straight to the friend zone .
Of course you should be “nice” and not treat women like an asshole.
But if you ONLY play the nice guy when dating, you will be shamelessly exploited by the opposite sex and end up as their “best friend” at best.
You might share the sofa with her to watch Star Trek, but never the bed.
For us men, learning to flirt means abandoning the role of the gentleman that our mothers and Hollywood movies taught us.
Instead, you need to show a touch of unpredictability and cheekiness to spice up your communication (see also the next point!)
5. Have emotional conversations
To get a woman excited when you approach her, you first need to understand the psychology of what constitutes flirting.
It is a specific type of interpersonal communication.
This communication is not about the exchange of pure facts like in a consultation in an electronics store.
It’s also not about the robotic application of pure flirting techniques.
What you want to achieve is the authentic charm to awaken passionate emotions.
Therefore, avoid any kind of factual and “serious” conversations about work, your ex-girlfriend, science, and other things!
If you really want to learn how to flirt, you should switch the switch in your head from “information” to “emotion”.
What exactly does that mean?
Tease the woman jokingly , make her laugh and give her sophisticated compliments !
Only in this way can the famous spark ignite the fire of love (to put it poetically).
6. Prepare sayings and conversation topics
I often hear men complain: “That’s all well and good, Andy, but I don’t know what to say to that woman!”
No matter whether you want to approach the lady for the first time or are sitting opposite her on a date:
It’s a feeling as if your head is suddenly empty as soon as you have an attractive lady in front of you.
This makes us fear an awkward silence, which creates additional pressure and anxiety, doesn’t it?
As a beginner, make a plan to learn how to flirt – because preparation helps!
Take a piece of paper (or use the note function on your phone) and write down good sayings that you will say to her.
You can also jot down questions you want to ask her to keep the conversation going.
By the way, in this article you will find some very useful conversation topics for your date that you can copy!
7. How to easily get her number
Of course, you don’t just want to talk to the woman, but also get her cell phone number while flirting so that you can meet again.
However, men are often afraid to ask for her number because they fear rejection.
The flirting technique is really super simple:
Strictly speaking, you don’t ask for her phone number, but rather suggest a date directly…
…and use this as an excuse to exchange numbers:
” Cool, you like those chocolate muffins too? I know a cool café in town that makes the best muffins. Let’s stay in touch and meet there for coffee. What’s your number? “
As you ask this question, you casually pull your phone out of your pocket to type in her number.
8. Use body language correctly
Most men hide their interest from the woman they love and act like a “good friend” – for fear of being rejected .
That’s why they never make sexual compliments or innuendo…
…and they also completely avoid physical contact when dating, as if every touch could give them a fatal electric shock.
In love, always remember: only those who touch can seduce!
Learning to flirt therefore also means (for advanced learners) going beyond purely verbal communication and getting up close and personal with the woman.
First, touch her lightly on her shoulder or upper arm – and as you get closer on the date, touch her more intimately…
But always pay attention to their reactions!
If she likes your physical approach, you can go a step further and intensify the flirting touches – until the kiss is the crowning conclusion!
And maybe you’ll even end up in bed for sex… 😉
Learn to flirt with friends
Practicing flirting alone is not always easy – especially for shy men who cannot bring themselves to approach an attractive woman.
But you are not alone!
Go out with good friends to learn how to flirt.
Together you’ll have a lot of fun, motivate each other, and even laugh at rejections when things go terribly wrong.
Of course, I am also at your side as a flirting coach, because I have already walked this path.
Trust me!
Whether you want to find a relationship or are just looking for sex: I can show you how to quickly become a charming seducer.
So you too can soon enjoy a life full of women you really want.
