Women want men with money. He should also look muscular, have lots of hair, and drive an expensive car. Oh yeah, and he has to be tall… at least 6’3″! Or is that right?
Let me get one thing straight: This is, of course, complete nonsense!
But what do women really like? What do they value in men? And what’s important to them when looking for a partner, whether it’s a committed relationship or even just sex?
Maybe you’ve been single for a long time and are longing for a girlfriend. Because of your failures in love, you finally want to know what women look for most when choosing a partner. Is that so? Then my blog article will surely open your eyes and help you:
What women DON’T like – 4 misconceptions
There are many theories and studies circulating about female desires. Unfortunately, most of them are just nonsense.
We men often fail in our search for a partner because we don’t know the true secret of what women want . Therefore, we believe that as men we aren’t good enough for the woman because we (supposedly) can’t meet her expectations.
In the worst case, we end up going to the gym for years and then wondering why we still don’t have a chance with the opposite sex with our Adonis body.
In another article I will tell you the truth about how you, as a normal man, have to behave in order to make a woman fall in love .
But first, let’s tackle the 4 biggest myths about male attractiveness:
Myth 1: Do women like money and fast cars?
You don’t have a deep pocket? It’s not a problem at all! Let me tell you: Money and an expensive car alone won’t impress your chosen one for long.
It is NOT just material values that women are interested in!
You can be the richest guy in the world and drive around in a gold-plated Lambo – but if that’s all you have to offer her, you’ll never develop a deep connection.
Women are not with these men because of the money, but because of the character traits that made them rich.
Yes, okay, there are the so-called “gold diggers” who snag a sugar daddy who finances their luxurious lifestyle and pays for every date . But I’m assuming that’s not the type of woman you’re interested in.
Because between you and me: what do you want with someone like that?
You and I prefer women who are looking for a man for life who will satisfy their true needs.
And these are NOT material in nature. (Disclaimer: Of course, that doesn’t mean you can’t take her out to a fancy dinner or give her small gifts .)
Myth 2: Do women like muscles and tall men?
Well: No money, no muscles, and “only” 1.74 meters tall – that’s probably it! 😉
Joking aside!
Even if you don’t have the dream figure of a lingerie model, that’s totally okay and not a deal breaker for the majority of women. I promise!
It’s important that you become aware of the difference between LOOKS and RADIANCE. Because that’s exactly where we men need to start!
You don’t have to be a mountain of muscles or the size of a basketball player. And even without a prominent superman chin and thick, shiny hair, you still have a good chance of meeting a great woman .
Sure, muscles are nice to have when it comes to serving as an attractive protector for your partner. Studies confirm this. A toned body might also help you find a one-night stand (or sex on Tinder , where first impressions count).
But what women like most is a confident personality. This can also give them a sense of security. And especially when looking for a committed relationship, qualities like intelligence, humor, and reliability are much more important than physical eye-catchers like six-pack abs and biceps.
Myth 3: Do women like assholes?
Many of us men also think that we have to act like super cool macho men in order to convince a woman when approaching or dating.
When flirting, they don’t dare to be themselves—for fear that their true selves wouldn’t be enough. However, such an inauthentic James Bond role makes a bad impression when getting to know someone, so this fake bad-boy attitude is sure to lead to rejection.
But why does it happen so often that pretty girls ignore the nice guys and instead fall for the nasty macho who treats them badly?
The answer: Yes, some women like assholes—but not because, but despite them being so mean! What’s attractive is the unwavering confidence these guys exude. They also unwaveringly go their own way, unwavering in their will.
These are sexy qualities that go down well with women. So much so that some women will tolerate his bad behavior for the sake of it.
The other side of the coin is all the negative aspects of the macho, which you should also be familiar with: He is selfish, loud, disrespectful and also likes to cheat.
That’s why you should only look at the positive aspects of assholes and leave out everything else that could make your potential partner unhappy in a relationship.
Myth 4: Is the kind and nice man well-received?
What do women like? If you believe parents, mainstream media, and feminists, Mr. Nice Guy is supposed to be particularly attractive these days.
Who? The nice guy. He’s the opposite extreme of an asshole—a submissive gentleman who always behaves politely and courteously toward women. He listens to their problems for hours and is always there when the new shelf needs to be installed or the PC needs repaired.
Many people want to tell you that you have to act like a nice guy in order to get a partner.
In my experience, however, that’s also a fallacy. If you’re an overly good and nice guy, you’ll probably end up in the friend zone at best , but rarely in bed with a woman.
Because always being nice is terribly boring. It lacks the friction, the fire, needed to develop sexual attraction.
Of course, that doesn’t mean you should mistreat women. Feel free to be a gentleman. But it helps when dating if you, as a man, occasionally make yourself scarce instead of always being available. And be a little cheeky when flirting instead of just offering compliments. After all, it’s not for nothing that they say: Those who love each other tease each other !
What do women like most? 10 important characteristics
Do you also ask yourself why you’ve been single for so long ? And what women like most about looks and personality? Ignorance about the female sex and extreme self-doubt are among the most common reasons why some guys have never had a girlfriend in their lives .
So now we come to the top 10 of masculine attractiveness. These are the things women REALLY like about us men:
1. Visually well-groomed and super styling
Mirror, mirror on the wall… No, you don’t have to be “the fairest of them all.” Studies show that looks are less important to women than to men when choosing a partner.
But let’s face it: Of course, appearance isn’t completely irrelevant to a first impression when meeting someone. It’s a factor that determines whether a woman likes you at first glance, either when approaching you or on a date.
At the very beginning, she’ll automatically judge you based on your looks because she doesn’t know your personality yet. Kind of logical, right?
What women like are men who appear well-groomed without being overly vain. And who have an authentic fashion style that suits them.
Just stand in front of the mirror and answer the following questions:
- Do you have an attractive haircut and a well-groomed beard? Or is your head and face covered in unruly hair like a Neanderthal’s?
- Do you wear a cool hat or go bald if the hair on your head is starting to thin at your age?
- Is your clothing stylish and fashionable, or rather functional and boring like “mum’s pick” (keyword: turtleneck sweater, rain jacket and cargo pants)?
- Are your shoes presentable? Or are you walking around in dirty, worn-out shoes?
- Do you wear contemporary glasses or do the frames make you look more like a computer nerd with a 90s look?
- Are your fingernails cut short? Or do they almost resemble the claws of Wolverine and Freddy Krueger?
If you have to admit that you’re not exactly a visual delight for women right now, it’s time to take action. Bring out the best in yourself and eliminate your no-gos!
The big advantage: Unlike his personality, his appearance can be changed instantly. All you have to do is head out into town for an afternoon and stock up on two or three new outfits for your date .
If you have no idea about fashion and styling, then ask a salesperson or a hairdresser for advice! They know what women like about men.
2. Unshakable self-confidence
It’s always easy to say something like that, I know. But what exactly is self-confidence? And how do you get it when you lack it?
Let’s take the word apart:
It’s about trusting yourself. An awareness of who you are and why you’re good just the way you are (hence self-confidence).
Trust plays a crucial role in the relationship between man and woman.
If you don’t trust yourself and don’t believe in yourself, your partner won’t either. Women are attracted to confident men with a positive self-image.
Ask yourself: “How much am I worth to myself?”
Now, don’t confuse self-confidence with arrogance or macho behavior. An inflated ego isn’t attractive at all.
You should not pretend that you are above other people and that you are “something better”.
It’s simply about being at peace with yourself, accepting yourself and radiating this confidence in yourself by presenting a positive and self-confident image to the outside world.
- “I fully respect your opinion, but I have different views on the subject.”
- “I won’t let that discourage me.”
- “I can trust my experiences, so I won’t let myself be unsettled.”
- “Mistakes happen, you can learn from them and correct them.”
These are just a few example sentences that demonstrate self-confidence and express that you accept yourself instead of allowing yourself to be thrown off balance.
3. A strong masculinity like a thousand years ago
“Another vague term,” you might be thinking.
In fact, this characteristic is somewhat harder to define and women’s opinions differ more than they do on other topics.
Many media outlets and feminists want to convince you that it is now “masculine” to be as soft, weak-willed and conformist as possible.
The opposite is true! Don’t be confused!
Because, at its core, what was considered masculine thousands of years ago still counts today. It’s just that the term is often associated with the wrong characteristics.
The fact is, you don’t have to act like a fierce warrior. You don’t need to mount a horse shirtless or shave with an axe from now on to get the ladies into bed 😀
There are much more subtle ways. More important than these old Rambo clichés are genuine qualities that women, due to evolution, perceive as “typically male”:
Determination, determination, risk-taking, independence, protectiveness… all of this is part of it.
But also things that men nowadays sometimes hardly dare to do. By that, I mean dominance, passion, and allowing one’s feelings to flow. Authentic, true masculinity – that’s what women like.
Want to know more about this fascinating topic? In another advice article, I reveal the secret of what women find attractive in the opposite sex.
4. Take the lead as an alpha male
Most women love it when you take the lead and present yourself as a real alpha male .
But that doesn’t mean you should loudly boss them around like a general. That’s a no-go.
The “dominant” character is more about her not having to worry and being able to sit back and relax because she knows you will take care of things.
What exactly do women like? It’s small, but powerful, everyday phrases. For example, you should say something like:
- “Put on something nice! I’ll come pick you up at eight o’clock and then we’ll go out.”
- “Hey, grab your jacket! I know a nice bar around here that I’d like to show you.”
- “Come on, let’s walk this way! It’ll take five minutes longer, but it’s a nicer route.”
Do you see what I mean?
Taking the lead is pretty easy. In everyday situations, you can take the initiative and, figuratively speaking, “take the woman by the hand” to show her the way.
If you’ve already reached this point in the getting-to-know-you phase, then you actually take her by the hand 😉
5. Humor: Make her laugh, boy!
If you can make her laugh , that’s half the battle. At the very least, fun is more attractive than being serious all the time. In my experience, humor is particularly high on the “dream man” wish list for the majority of women.
Because what effect does it have when we men make a woman laugh when dating?
Exactly: She feels comfortable, gets a good feeling, and enjoys spending time with you. What could be better?
You shouldn’t memorize the “100 best jokes” you find on some cheap website. If you deliver them stiffly like a carnival speaker, you’re probably not going to get the desired result 😀
Learn from role models: Watch the funniest guy in the bar entertaining the ladies and pick up some of his humor.
Of course, you can also just watch comedies and cartoon series like The Simpsons, Family Guy, and the like to get a feel for funny answers.
6. The positive sides of machos and bad boys
It’s the age-old question among single men: Do women like assholes? Why do they prefer these bastards?
We boys often feel like it’s enough to make us despair. They ignore the noble knight who truly loves them and is always there for them when things are going wrong.
Even though they can always count on him and are treated with respect, in the end they send him straight into the dreaded friend zone .
But what about the lousy guy who’s cheating on them and only wants to sleep with them for sex? Who has ten women on each hand and lies to them over and over again?
They love him, make eyes at him, and even chase after him. Despite all the no-gos.
Where’s the logic in that? The answer is relatively simple:
Again, this is largely about the self-confidence that makes dating so attractive. Women do NOT want to be mistreated! They don’t like being lied to and cheated on.
And often they wish that the bastard would “change for them.”
What binds them to the villain, however, is his self-confidence. His masculinity. His charisma. (Notice something? Those are the same points from above!)
“Bad boys” are men who are confident in themselves, or at least appear so.
They seem pretty confident in themselves. These macho men don’t chase after women. They don’t act needy, clingy, or insecure. They’re somehow above it all when it comes to flirting (whether that’s just a facade or not is debatable).
But please don’t become an asshole now, because these men usually don’t have a long-term functioning or even happy relationship, they just want variety in bed.
They play their little games, don’t build a real bond with any woman and at some point have to be very careful not to end up alone.
Therefore, adopt ONLY the positive qualities of this type of man, because that’s what women like the most!
7. Being able to hold long conversations and listen
This is probably going to come as a huge surprise, so hold on tight: women like to talk, even with men!
Yes, I know. I haven’t reinvented the wheel of psychology with this insight. Nevertheless, it’s important that we take a closer look at this point!
If the woman feels like she can talk to you about anything, you’re definitely on the right track. Actually, you don’t even have to say much. Being a good listener is usually enough.
What women like is when you REALLY listen to them and respond to them.
But be careful—don’t mentally plan your next football bet while she’s telling you about her argument with her boss. Just a nod isn’t always enough.
Women are so mean that they sometimes actually ask you for your opinion 😉
And then, ideally, you should know what she just said and be able to respond correctly.
However, don’t become her “best friend” by simply playing the good listener on your date. Girls aren’t attracted to mere niceness, as mentioned above. Therefore, you also need to develop the other masculine qualities I describe in this guide.
8. Protective instinct and security
Be her rock in the storm. A safe haven, a shoulder to lean on, a lap to sit on… No, wait, I’ve drifted off into a little distraction 😀
I think it’s clear what I mean by this point, right?
As already mentioned, it’s NOT necessarily the muscles that are attractive! But a certain character:
What women like are men they can rely on. Men who are there for them and give them a sense of security.
What does a woman want with a guy who quickly runs off at the first sign of drizzle? She wants a reliable partner who will stand by her side and look out for her even in the strongest storms.
For example, has your loved one just lost their job or their pet died? Then support them. Hold them in your arms when they need comfort. Be there for them even in difficult times!
This is something that almost every woman longs for in a relationship – despite all the female emancipation and independence these days.
9. Show your emotions as a man
Do you know phrases and thoughts like these? I used to hear them often:
- “Showing emotions is a sign of weakness!”
- “Don’t be such a drama queen!”
- “Real men don’t cry!”
- “An Indian knows no pain!”
Our parents’ and grandparents’ generation, in particular, screwed up in some ways and fed us complete nonsense. Emotions are absolutely NOT a sign of weakness. As a man, standing by your feelings and communicating them is a sign of strength!
Of course, you shouldn’t be whiny. But revealing your feelings in difficult situations is much more attractive than being the cold-blooded dog who couldn’t care less about anything in life.
For example, if you’re nervous about approaching her for the first time or going on your first date with her, you can tell her openly and honestly!
You’ll be surprised at how well women respond when you talk to them about your emotions.
Because that creates a particularly deep connection!
When you confide in a woman, you signal to her that you’re open and trusting her. She’ll also think, “Hey, he doesn’t need to act like a tough guy to impress me like other men do. He can show weakness sometimes, too. Wow!”
This automatically ensures that she trusts you just as much and feels safe with you. This strengthens your bond.
So dare to do it! Stand by your feelings. Forget the old-fashioned “wisdom” and embrace your emotions!
10. Commonalities for a long-term relationship
Attractiveness also arises from similarity between two people, a common wavelength.
Are you attracted to sporty, fit women who live an active lifestyle, but are you more of a couch potato with cola blood type?
Yeah… You see it yourself, right?
When flirting, it’s crucial that both people are roughly the same type of person for a relationship to work long-term. Birds of a feather flock together, as Grandma always knew.
Sure, sometimes opposites attract and create positive friction. Nevertheless, it can be difficult to build a relationship with someone who has completely different hobbies, interests, values, and future plans.
Women are attracted to men with whom they can imagine a future into old age, often including marriage and having children.
They want someone with whom they can share their passions and pursue their goals together.
So see what type of woman interests you and then think carefully about whether that would actually suit you and your life .
Next step: Get going and get to work!
Now you know what women like – and that many things that are supposedly so important when looking for a partner are meaningless at all.
We’ve debunked widespread clichés and myths perpetuated by parents, the media, and feminism. At the same time, you’ve learned what really matters if you want to be successful with the opposite sex.
Be yourself, but become the best version of yourself!
Masculinity is characterized by self-confidence, as I explained above. What this means for you: The next step is to simply go out and dare to approach women you like. Whether it’s during the day on the street or while partying in a club.
Be authentic when flirting, because it’s no use putting on a facade to please a woman. Sooner or later, that mask will slip, and you’ll be seen as a fake.
Instead, trust in yourself and your worth.
Also, watch my video to learn the most effective way to create an attractive impression and finally find the right partner
